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Kristen, 30, is paralyzed from the waist down and gets around in a wheelchair.She's single, and has lived in and dated on Tinder in three different cities — Los Angeles, Boston, and New York — and spoke with about what it's really like to Tinder date when you're paraplegic.We'd been talking for about two weeks leading up to the date, mostly about our careers and where we were from, and I was intrigued by him because we're both from the same part of the country and it's a small town and that seemed interesting. Once he saw I was in a wheelchair, he immediately wouldn't look me in the eye for the rest of the night and we basically spent the whole date ignoring the elephant in the room.It was the most uncomfortable date I've ever been on and felt really forced, so toward the end of the night, I finally just brought it up and said, "Are you OK?When I first went on Tinder, I just thought, , but then I felt like I had to view myself as a disabled person instead. I got rid of Tinder after that because even though it wasn't all bad, it just wasn't making me feel good overall.I finally just called my friends and said, "What the hell am I doing wrong? I don't think Tinder is bad in any sense and I don't regret being on it.After that date, I was very upset by how ignorant he was but also upset with myself, because I felt like I should have been more forthcoming and told him earlier in the conversation that I was in a wheelchair.
I'm a very no-nonsense person and didn't want us to waste each other's time.It is hosted by the Universities of the Witwatersrand and Western Cape, the African Population and Health Research Centre and the Nigerian Academy of Science.The Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation is a Strategic Partner.I really think the way these guys treated me just has a lot to do with the stigma that's attached to being in a wheelchair because so many people look at you and they automatically assume certain things.I thought that by trying to let people get to know me before they got to knew I was in a wheelchair was a good plan, because then they'd see that I'm normal, and I travel by myself and live by myself, but other people won't let you be defined by anything other than being in a wheelchair.
I originally thought I should, but then my friends told me I didn't have to do that if I didn't want to because my disability doesn't impact the type of activities I'm into, or who I am, or even my day to day.