Celibacy while dating month dating anniversary
Someone like me who's a-romantic will generally have no desire for a romantic relationship (or a physical relationship, at least).
Someone who's bi-romantic is interested in romantic relationships but has no preference as to gender.
But in 2000 the stock market crashed and I lost pretty much everything within a couple of weeks.
The new husband didn't appear to be he person that he was when I had money. In 2005, still in LA, I collapsed and was rushed to hospital.
I was very confused until I was 18, when I had a conversation with a friend who asked if I might be asexual. If I hadn't discovered the asexual community I would have continued to think something was wrong with me and could have fallen into a relationship I didn't want to be in – I think that has happened a lot to other, especially older, people.
When I was 16 I had an abortion, but I carried on being carefree and thoughtless until my mid-thirties, when I met the man of my dreams. After about six months I decided to see a gynaecologist and to my horror discovered I had blocked fallopian tubes and was infertile. My sexual behaviour had ruined my opportunity to settle down; I couldn't give my husband the baby he desperately wanted, and the marriage ended.
When I was 17 and my friends were in relationships I did try dating boys.
We'd go to the cinema and I'd think we were there to watch a movie and they thought we were there to cuddle and kiss.
Now I run a website for women, venuscow.com, and do workshops where I talk about celibacy.
I try to explain to young girls that the risks they might run now can have devastating consequences in future, but I also meet a lot of mature women who are recently divorced, and, having had a terrible knock, are throwing themselves into relationships with younger men.
In my forties I set up a head-hunting firm in the City and gave up sex to focus on the business.